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“People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.” J. Michael Straczynsk
My newsletter/blog is all about things related to stress: what it is, how it affects us when unmanaged and what we can do to develop more supportive coping strategies to handle the challenges in our lives. We have many challenges in our lives – but usually only the blame and shame game as a coping strategy. It’s not very supportive.
The first step to creating more harmony and balance in our lives is through awareness. Start with something ‘simple’: what gives us energy and what drains our energy? Low energy levels make us more susceptible to reacting to stressful situations.
If you take this one step towards developing insight into ‘what makes you tick’, then you have a greater chance of taking the necessary steps towards ensuring you have more energy gainers in your life.
What can’t you say no to? What do you say yes to that might drain your battery? Is it a lack of exercise or a friend who weights you down with their problems? Is it too many late nights? Fast food? What unhealthy choices are you making for yourself? It comes down to what brings you short-term pleasure but coupled with long-term pain? We all know what we should be doing, often we just don’t do it.
If you’re not even aware of what’s triggering your energy drain then you can’t do anything about it. Stop and make a list of habits, situations, people, and environments that aren’t serving your best needs. Analyze the list and ask yourself what can you do to change just one of the items on your list. Once you have thought out a game plan, put it into place.
Search for help. If it’s a habit you want to change, then research how habits can be changed and how you can develop new ones that are more supportive. Charles Duhigg wrote a book about this and there are a couple of great videos on You Tube describing the process of change.
Perhaps you might need coaching. There are a lot of us ‘out there’. You need to find the one best suited to you. It’s an investment in yourself – don’t wait for your boss to reach into their budget to help you. Take the initiative for yourself.
If it’s an improvement in your diet, then look to a nutritionist/food specialist for help. And there are thousands of books on the subject. Ask someone who seems to have a good handle on their personal nutrition what they are doing. You know them! They are that person who looks great, exudes energy, doesn’t get easily irritated and has enough left over at the end of a long work day to still do something interesting for themselves. See if just one thing they are doing will make a difference in your life.
The bottom line is this: if our battery is running low then we won’t be able to come up with creative solutions to the challenges life throws our way.
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